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Over the years, the way we conduct ourselves and the way we dress for funerals has definitely changed.  However, common sense and common courtesy still prevail.

Since we here at the Koller Funeral Home and Cremation Center experience funerals on a frequent and regular basis, we can offer the following funeral etiquette tips so that you are aware what to do and what not to do.

What You Should do at a Funeral...

• Express Your Sympathy
  Sometimes, it is difficult to find the right words to say to the family when their loved one has just died.  Speaking from the heart is always best.  A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” spoken sincerely is usually enough.
• Offer a Gift
  It need not be expensive, but flowers or a donation to a charity are a good choice.  Often, the obituary will note the family’s choice of a charity “in lieu of flowers”.  A card legibly signed by you should always accompany your gift.
• Do Your Best to Learn the Dress Code
  If you are unsure of the family’s wishes, then plan to dress conservatively.  You’ll find others will do the same.
• Sign the Register Book
  Be sure to sign your name legibly and add a note that will let the family know your relationship to the deceased (“Scotty’s teacher” or “Co-Worker” will suffice.)
• Find Simple Ways to Keep Showing You Care
  When the funeral is over and everyone returns to their normal routine, grieving continues, especially for those who were closest to the deceased.  Now could be an important time to remain in touch.  A brief note to say hello, a visit, a small gift, an invitation are all ways to let those who are grieving know that you care.

More Information:

• Funeral Etiquette: Attending Services
• Funeral Etiquette: Sending Condolences
• Funeral Etiquette: A Gift of Your Time