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GRIEF DURING THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays are a time for family and friends.  Everyone is shopping and celebrating with parties and special gatherings while some people are inwardly hurting and grieving because of the loss of a loved one.  The holidays seem to magnify the feeling of grief.

During the holidays, your old traditions may now need to be celebrated in a different way.  It is important to remember your loved one and try to start a new tradition such as lighting a candle in remembrance or hang their stocking up and have family members place notes in the stocking expressing their thoughts and memories.  You could volunteer one day of your time  with an organization  or donate a present to a needy family or child in remembrance of your loved one.

If you have a bad day it is okay.  Allow yourself to grieve, but remember to take care of yourself.  Get plenty of rest.  Don't be afraid to talk to someone for support ... a close friend, a minister or a professional.  During the busy holiday season, remember to take one day at a time.


Story Books Help Children Deal With a Pet's Death

 

When there is a death in the family, the tendency is to wonder if that departed loved one is “okay”. It is a natural part of the grieving process as you adjust to the loss of that person and life without them.

Of course, this also applies to our cherished pets; and – particularly for children – it is comforting to imagine that they are in a beautiful place, free of pain and suffering.

You might be familiar with the story of the Rainbow Bridge – a very short story that tells us what happens to all our pets who must leave us through death.

Building upon that concept, there are a number of highly-acclaimed story books geared to children but helpful to anyone. The following are two examples from our virtual book shelf here at the Koller Funeral Home & Cremation Center.

Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant

“The reassuring story might comfort a child after the loss of a pet, but this pleasant, imaginary paradise will have a broad appeal to all animal lovers” – Joy Fleishhacker, New York Public Library.

Cat Heaven by Cynthia Rylant

Like Rylant’s “Dog Heaven”, this book serves to comfort anyone – young or old – who has lost a pet. It applies a rather non-traditional spiritualism and reverence mingled with gentle humor throughout.